Heyyyy There 😉
I stepped away from blog writing in 2021 as life came at me and it came at me GOOD lol!
But since getting married in August, 2021 so many women have asked me about my celibacy journey and have shared that they too are on a similar journey. If you know anything about me I value transparency so this blog will be JAM packed with pure real talk🥰
Even though this blog post is a little late , better late then never ay!
CELIBACY UNCOVERED: THE CROSSOVER FROM CELIBACY TO MARRIAGE!
Let’s get stuck in!
As many of you would know from watching a few of my previous YouTube videos and content that I share on my socials - I had been celibate for 8 years and spent 6 of those long 8 years dating my boyfriend then turned fiancé and most recently my hubbby Omz!
So when I say I have lived , breathed and walked celibacy I can give you all the ins and outa ahaha.
Celibacy changed my life and truly allowed me to walk in my full purpose whilst honouring God with every aspect of my being including my body. What I love about my journey is that both me and my husband experienced prior sexual relationships before committing to each other , so YES we knew what we were missing out on and we’re still prepared to embark upon the journey because we knew the value we would gain out of waiting.
Whilst abstaining from sex for 6 years together we learnt how to love each other deeply, how to be intimate in other areas instead of just physically, how to honour God with our mind, body and spirit and SO MUCH MORE. The benefits of celibacy were truly life changing and I can’t even begin to explain how God moved so powerfully through our union because we chose to put him first.
So many people couldn’t believe we were celibate: even our closest friends and family were like WHAT?
Especially when we bought a house together and lived under the same roof 👀 - yes that’s right. We lived together , became home owners and still managed to withstand the temptation of having sex before we were married.
Celibacy was TOUGH , some days we just wanted to throw the towel in and say forget this rubbish. WHAT IS THE POINT?
But we had the end goal in mind and knew the wait would be worth it. Saving yourself for the union of marriage gives you clarity, purity and strength not only independently but as a union also.
Now, I’ll be honest. I don’t think celibacy is for everyone and that’s totally fine. It is a huge commitment and you’ve got to understand what your doing and why your doing it essentially.
There are countless times when me and Omar nearly threw it all away but thank God when one was weak the other was strong and vice versus☺️.
So after being celibate for a number of years you can imagine the transition to being married is just as difficult as the initial decision to be celibate. After years of programming your mind to withstand sex you are now FREE - it’s like being a kid in a candy shop😂. So many people think that transition will be smooth but adjusting to a new kind of normal also comes with its challenges.
I think it’s important to sit down with your partner and discuss EVERYTHING…
• Sexual past
• Previous sexual partners
• Your likes and dislikes
• Any fetish‘s you have
• Emotional, physical , mental and spiritual desires
and much more.
DIG DEEP - so you know exactly how to please and satisfy each other once you end your celibacy.
THE BEST BITS
Celibacy truly changes relationships for the better if your both on the same page and prepared to make such a commitment. But the benefits truly come AFTERWARDS… within marriage.
The freedom to make love to one another and know that God desires this for your relationship is such an incredible feeling. Knowing that you’ve waiting to put God first and he honours your union is a true blessing.
Sex outside of marriage can feel incredible in the moment but can often be followed by guilt, shame , low self esteem, confusion , lack of clarity but mostly GUILT.
Sex within marriage is followed by nothing but the opposite- it feels like a dream🥰😍.
1 Corin 6:18-20
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
If your reading this and currently on your celibacy journey I pray you continue with added strength , wisdom and transparency.
I’d your reading this and currently not celibate and thinking about giving it a go for 2022- GO FOR IT! You have nothing to loose but everything to gain.
Feel free to hit me up for absolutely anything also - I‘d love to connect🙏🏾
Love & Light